A Little Honesty

Growing up my dad used to lecture my sisters and I about how one day all we would have would be each other. I thought it was morbid. I know I always rolled my eyes. His point was really that we needed to appreciate and love each other. Little did I know how much I would miss them when I am half a world away. Tonight I watched a movie, made mint brownies and bagels for tomorrow's breakfast with Kim, Katie and Amy. (I love these girls to death, but I am sure they will understand when I say...) I wish I could have enjoyed the evening with Emily, Caitlin, and Hannah. (Rachel is still a tad too young.) Just missing my sisters tonight...

*note: John Travolta shaking it dressed as a woman in the movie Hairspray ranks right up there with Hugh Grant's dance in Love Actually. Oh to hear Caitlin giggle at that...

Address

Because it was asked for...

Beth Quarles
Dept. of Foreign Affairs
China Three Gorges University
San Xia Da Xue
8 Daxue Lu
Yichang, Hubei 443002
China

90 cents for a letter! ;)

A Beautiful Tree

We have some pretty incredible friends here. All of whom make my life more interesting and a lot more "colorful" as the students like to say.

Last year Brad introduced us to one of his students. She is great at art! In the past she has painted a picture of Brad (a little Asian looking and about 40 years old), a sculpture of a mermaid, and a painting of an American football scene (which she have never seen!!!).

Last night Chen Tao delivered a paint to me! She painted this beautiful tree surrounded by the Fruit of the Spirit in Chinese. It is sooo beautiful! The background reminds me a lot of Tennessee and for some reason my grandparents farm. I love it. It is now proudly displayed in my living room. How blessed am I for such an amazing piece of art, but more importantly for such a sweet friend.

Baking Lessons

Earlier this week I was eating dinner out with some girls. We were talking about boys and food (you know normal things... both of which I have little understanding of...), and the girls asked if I would teach them how to make apple pie. I had made it last year around Christmas time for some of my classes and they remembered. I agreed. So at the insane hour of 8am on a Sunday morning baking lessons began.

I had everything prepared each couple had a pan, bowl and supplies in their own little area. (Did I mention that 2 girls turned into 8 boys and girls. The original 2 did not even come!!) I also printed out little recipe cards for them. It was a smashing success! 4 pies were made, students were happy, and nothing was broken this time. We also enjoyed listening to Christmas music, looking at Thanksgiving photos and catching a few minutes of the movie G.I. Jane. Each had a piece of pie and were sent home with more in tow.

After my students left, Amy and Brad came over for a turkey leftover lunch. I also tried my hand at a new Chinese noodle dish. Came out pretty good for the first time. The sedative in the turkey hit quick (and it was just an exhausting week) so I went to lie down. (After checking Auburn/Alabama score of course... War Eagle!) Sweet Amy and Brad cleaned my kitchen and I took a nap. I woke up feeling very refreshed! I had some Quiet Time, baked another cake for a friend's birthday, watched a little G. Girls and stared at my Christmas trees. Shortly, I will be heading out to meet Family and I am already ready to start another week.

Tour of the House

Day after Thanksgiving... time to decorate for Christmas! However when doing that, I realized I never took you all on a tour of my house. So I made some pictures and well, welcome to my home...

This is what you first see when you walk in the door.

The bathroom is directly on your left. (Notice using the toilet and showering are two separate tasks now!)

View of dining room from hallway

My dining area (the table can be made bigger and I have a spare table)

My nice wonderful kitchen! (One of the reasons why I moved apartments...)

Off the dining area, sits my living room. Decorated for Christmas of course. (Post later more about that)

Off the living room there is a tiny hallway... on the left side a guest bedroom. Also, the room where my turtles live...

On the right side is my office. (Rachel's art decorates this room!)

Then, there is my bedroom.

Outside of my room there is a sunporch area. I use it to dry my clothes and for little art projects.

And that my friends is my home. A little Chinesey, but I did what I could. Each day I grow to love it more and hate it more. (Might look good, but the fact is my shower is going to fall though the floor one day (the president of the university lives below me so I am sure it will be fixed after that point...lets just hope I am not standing there naked when it does), my toilet must be flushed by reaching into the tank and pulling the chain, I nearly catch my hand on fire each time I reach into the oven to light the gas burning thing, my sinks floods my kitchen every now and then, etc, etc.) Anyways, it is home.

Come over anytime...

Thanksgiving!

Well it is officially the day after Thanksgiving here, but for most everyone else I know it is Thanksgiving Day. :) Just a little recap of my day...

8:30am- head out to pick up turkey (ended up having to drop it off at a restaurant to be cooked... my gas in my oven was out... ultimate domestic goddess status will have to be achieved another year)

9am- get back in taxi close to tears because our turkey was soooo cooked

10am- who cares about turkey? we had bagels for breakfast! thanks to allrecipes.com and Amy/Brad I was able to enjoy another Panera-sque meal. kudos!

11:30am- run last minute errands before spending the afternoon in the kitchen and set tables

12:30- 4pm- cook pumpkin pies, sweet potatoes casserole, birthday cake, battle the turkey problem with Amy, repeatedly say "I'm sorry" to Brad because my TVU player is not working so he missed UFC (points for anyone who understand what I just said...)

4-5pm- shower, clean and mop my kitchen! (I am not sure you can understand what a feat this is! one hour to do anything I pretty much pleased... talk about how far we have come from last Thanksgiving)

5:30pm- begin eating a fabulous dinner with our Family (yes, 5:30pm exactly when we planned... food all done, everyone arrived on time...beginning to rethink the fact that we are in China (not often does everything go this smoothly!)... last year I showed up 20 minutes late and food was not done!)

5:30 - 8:30pm- eat, sing some songs, talk about what we are thankful for, read Book all with family and love every minute of it!!!

9pm- settle down to watch Macy's parade...oops! did not account for all the times differences/schedules... I got a glimpse of the Kermit the Frog balloon on the news. will have to do!

9:30pm - now- say goodbye to Amy and Brad, climb in bed to watch a little Gilmore Girls, get back out of bed to plan class (oops it is not Saturday!) and blog because now I am on my second wind...

All in all a pretty perfect day!

So from our Family to yours...

May you have a memory making...

bone lickin' good...

Turkey Day!

Let's give praise to our Father who gives us so many reasons to be thankful!

"Famous" Quotes

Even if these are not well known, they are going down in my little book of knowledge.

"She who hoots with the owls in the evening can not soar with the eagles in the morning."

This acrostic poem was written by one of my students...

"Turkey frying in the fire
Unconditionally I love food
Run to the frying turkey
Kiss the cross and pray
Eleven o'clock pm. We share the turkey
Yeah, I full. Thanks, food."

Love it! :)

Healing

Tonight I am thankful that our Father is a healer.

Lots of things going on right now that need healing. Relationships, my little sister Rachel, my spiritual walk and my heart. Everyone that knows me knows there is no way in Hades that I could be a doctor. I cannot stand to see people suffering. Right now there is a lot of aching in my heart for people I know that are suffering. In some instances there is not much I can do. However, I do know the ultimate healer. He is my Father. So I will do my part and hand things over to this great Doctor and I ask that you do the same.

Reliant K

Today I am thankful for Reliant K's song In Moments I Feel Faint.

Yesterday like so many others the past couple of weeks was tough. Finally, I decided I need to go run it off so I grabbed my mp3 player. Didn't work. Borrowed Jumping's mp3. Couldn't figure it out. Thankfully Katie's worked and she put it on her workout playlist. I hit the pavement and just ran determined to get this crazy energy in me out. On my way back home, near the point of exhaustion, I saw a free table in the bamboo park. I sat down and this song started playing. It was such a good reminder to me that when I am weak, He is strong. I listened to the song a good 5 or 6 times before getting back home. It was what I needed. I am still working through and pr*ying about everything, but I am starting to let go and let someone take control who is much greater than me.

Coffee Shops

I am thankful for coffee shops.

I have spent a fair amount of time over the last few years drinking coffee at various coffee shops. In high school, we discovered Fido's. We thought we were so cool drinking coffee surrounded by Vanderbilt students. Harding had Midnight Oil. Tennessee Tech had Poets. Then at Lipscomb, I moved on to Starbucks. First it was kind of lonely. I spent time there drinking Fraps and studying. Then, I met Tiffany and really fell head over heals for Starbucks. We spent hours talking or playing Scrabble. Sometimes we would have a friend or two join us, but Starbucks really belongs to us. ;) My friend Nick and I would sometimes head to Fido's to chat. I think he still has such a tradition. At Frothy Monkey, I began playing with idea of doing Good Work with Paul and Jesse. Bongo Java changed my life literally. It is where Dawson, Brad, Amy and I discovered we had no jobs in Guilin and would have to move to Yichang instead. We had fun watching Amy dance this summer at Portland Brew. I miss these coffee shop experiences.

Now I occasionally go to a coffee shop (and I use that term loosely because good coffee is just not found here really...) to grade papers with Brad. We did frequent a real Starbucks in Xian. It was cool to take our Chinese friend to experience true coffee there. Today I went to Mr. Mai's and caught up with an old friend in Wuhan. All of these are good times too.

Really it might be the friends that make these coffee shops special, but hey it makes it that much better when you are holding a mug in your hand.

Great Turkey Search of '07

I am pleased to announce the arrival of a 7.065 kg turkey named Bama. (That is Bama like Alabama for all them Yankees out there...cough..Kim..cough) Proud parent would be Beth's backpack.

Early this morning Brad and I trekked out to Wuhan to buy ourselves a turkey. We had a few other options of things to do such as Dairy Queen and Baskin Robbins. Sadly those options did not happen, but it was still a successful day.

First of all we got a surprise at the Yichang bus station. There is a new McDonalds inside! They don't have a breakfast menu, but do serve up a mean cup of coffee. We got the bus ready for the almost 5 hour journey and shared bread left over from dinner last night. When cut in half it looks deliciously similar to Fazoli's breadsticks. Looks are deceptive though as it tastes just like old China bread.

Upon our arrival in the thriving metropolis of Wuhan we set out in search of food. For quite some time now we have heard of Mr. Mai's coffee shop so we thought we would stop in for lunch. Set back in a little English training center we were quite impressed. When we walked in the door, I was greatly happy to see my friend Freddy. We met last year on an excursion to Wuhan. Brad and I ate tacos, drank root beer and talked with Freddy about all kinds of things. Good guy that Freddy is...

After lunch we went to check out a DVD store and then planned on going to DQ. I could taste that pumpkin pie blizzard. However, time got the best of us and we just went from DVD shopping to Metro. We did get a turkey, cheese, cake mix, bread pan, etc. Brad helped me to shove everything into a freezer bag and then into my pack. It wasn't getting it in so I should have known getting it out would not be much fun. We hopped aboard a bus back to Yichang, sleeping off and on, but mostly just being uncomfortable. Then we were escorted back to the university by a stranger from the bus. Even though we have been here for over a year, he seemed certain we could not do this on our own. He was sweet though.

When we got back my backpack gave birth. It was a push/pull struggle and I have to imagine that it is like helping a cow to give birth. Bama got his name because next Saturday is the big Auburn/Alabama football game and well I just call it like I see it. Alabama...turkey... (War Eagle!) Now he sits in my freezer until I figure out how to cook a turkey. That's right ladies and gentlemen, I am planning on cooking a turkey. I feel as though domestic goddess status will be truly achieved after I complete this task. I remember watching ladies in my family worry, baste, and worry some more over such and now it is my turn. Wish me luck!

The Great Turkey Search of '07 was a success...

Students

This morning I am thankful for my students.

I have this class I often term as "the bad class." In reality I love them all and do spend time outside of class with them more than any of my other students. However, in the classroom they are a teacher's worst nightmare. They talk, sleep, come in late, no homework and just treat me like I am anybody standing at the front of the room. I have tried write offs, singing to sleeping students, making them stand, everything. I even gave them a speech about how wonderful Chinese students are supposed to be, but they aren't and if I wanted to teach sleeping students I could go back to America where there are plenty of them. Yesterday we had a break through! Our chapter was talking about movies so I asked them to create a movie trailer for something already out, something coming out, or something they created.... They did awesome!!! I was rolling in my chair, crying from laughter. I got to see quiet little girls come out of their shells. I got to see these punk boys listening to others. Amazing... I get to teach them yet again today so we will see how it goes.



On a day where the rain is coming down in torrents, you really just want to crawl back in bed and not face anything, my "bad" students were the ones to get me through it. For that I am truly thankful for my students.

A picture of my "good" freshmen... I don't have any from my "bad" class...

Beauty.

This morning I am thankful for beauty.

Last night I watched the movie The Fountain and while yes it was totally bizarre in a lot of ways, it was extremely beautiful. Images of a tree, the main character Izzy and her life, the star scenes and even the music. Wow. It was the type of beauty you don't even talk about until it is gone... know what I mean?

Beauty can be found in the smallest of things. A pearl earring, the way some one's smile curves on their faces, a wrinkle of someone wise, the penmanship in a letter of someone special and the twinkle in the eye of a child, just to name a few. I think one of the most beautiful things I have ever seen was a tree (yes, I am totally in love with trees!) was on a trip to Mississippi with Momma. We got out close to Gulfport and saw the Friendship Oak tree. I walked around totally in awe of the size and just loved the way the limbs curved. Some went into the ground and made it even stronger.The shade it cast was perfect. I could have spent days sitting under this old tree. It was beautiful.

While I hate that saying "You need to stop and smell the roses" I think there is some truth to it. We should take the time to stop and see the beauty around us. To really appreciate just how much detail Father put into each creation. There is beauty in everything, we just need to stop to see it.

A Regular Whodunnit?

November 10th, 1935 England

On Friday night Lord Richard Whittington was murdered in his own home. The following night a group of people came together for dinner and to solve the mystery. Presenting the Whittington Hall characters...

Colin Thompson (author)

Signora Rossi (detective and avid Venetian glass collector)

Thelma Cooper(actress) and Daphne, Dowanger Countess of ? (Richard's mother)

Lady Diana Whittington (emotional widow)

Other characters included : Robert Hughes (tennis player and spy), Rev. Thomas Summerland, Sylvia Ellis ( honorable guest), Virginia Dawson (socialite) and Viscount Langley(the surprise guest)

After an evening of British food, intellectual conversation (when else do you talk about the Tudor family?), questioning, birthday cake and great music, the murder was solved. Daphne, Richard's mother was guilty.

This big soiree was really held in honor of Kim's birthday. Thanks to http://www.host-party.com/ and a little creativity a good time was to be had by all. Happy Birthday Kim! You deserve so much more...

Talents/Gifts

Talents/Gifts.

This afternoon as I spend a little time quiet (also known as that hazy time after you wake up from a long nap) I am thankful for talents. Last night Brad, Peach and I went to our brother Daniel's house for dinner. After dinner Daniel played the classical guitar for us. We sat jaws dropped and listened to sounds that came from this crazy dear man's fingers and guitar. Amazing! People here have amazing talents. Amy has the talent of writing. Everything she writes is so elegant and thought provoking. Kim and Dawson both have the gift of music too. I always love it when they sit down at a piano. Katie and Brad have the gift of ministry. Both know exactly what to say to encourage,make people feel comfortable and loved. My Chinese friends blow me away with their bilingual skills! Today I received a paper lily from a student. How can one person sit down with just a piece of paper and create something so beautiful it looks like one of Father's creations itself? Talent.

My mother is an artist. She can paint a beautiful seaside or make a beautiful dress with no second thoughts. Her creativity always floors me. Now I am not near as creative as her, but I know she passed that gene on to me in some ways. I am thankful.

My father has the gift of being emotional. I have seen my father angry, cry, and love with fierce passion. I love that about him. I am probably more emotional than him in some ways, but I am thankful we have that in common. Just big old teddy bears.

Yeah, I am thankful for talents and gifts.

Simplify.

When we all came to China, we had a lot of dreams for our time here. We thought we would build up a good Family, become that teacher that just changes lives in the classroom, be able to speak Chinese rather well, travel to all of these amazing places and to become this super Chr*stian because we were away from so much temptation. Some of those dreams have come somewhat true, others I laugh at now and some have changed. We have a great Family. Small, but never cease to amaze me. Teaching feels more like glorified babysitting in a lot of ways. All of those creative ideas I have normally fall by the wayside because they just don't work here. Fluent in Chinese?!?! hahahaha. I have seen some amazing sights... Great Wall, Ice Festival in Harbin, Terracotta Soldiers, climbed mountains, etc. Now I face different temptations than I did in the States. Some temptations I still fall too and some I battle out. I do feel as though I have grown up and have changed in a lot of ways. Dreams...

One dream that I know I expressed with several people before I left was to make my life simpler. It was a practice I thought would be easy here and one I wanted to bring home. However, in all of my goofball ways I have managed to pump my schedule to all new levels, have more stuff in this little apartment than one can imagine accumulating in just over a year, computer has more programs than I don't even know how to use,etc. etc. Simple would not be a word that I would use to describe my life at all.

Today I stopped my Myspace account. (Well in the process.... they make you give reasons, email verification and several other tedious steps in hoping that you will get frustrated and just keep it. Pressing on though.) While it is not a huge step, it frees up maybe 10 minutes each day which is normally wasted anyway by just looking at other profiles. I hope to sit down this week and re-examine the craziness which is my life. Hopefully I can plan out some good ways to simplify my life a little more.

Simplifying is a discipline.

Good Health

Health.


I am so thankful that I have the ability to walk, see, hear, run, be active and be happy. Much too often this is taken for granted. I am blessed to be able to walk to class each day and clear my head along the way. Blessed to see the older generation playing croquet in the bamboo park each morning. Blessed to hear China's national anthem for hours at a time during weekends on campus. (It really could be worse... I could not hear it.) Blessed to be able to pick up a basketball and shoot a few hoops with my students. Blessed to cook, surprise, write, read, share Good News and a million other things just because I do have good health.

Bless Her Heart Moment

Tonight while reading... (My thoughts in Italics)

"For G-d said ,"Let light shine out of darkness," made his light shine in our hearts to give us the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Christ." Man that is a good verse!

"Hey Amy! Check this verse out..." (Beth)

"Yeah. Where is that?" (Amy)

"2 Cor.4:6" oh! I have that tattooed on my back!

Followed by fits of giggles...

Lesson learned: When getting a tattoo remember what it says.

Just thankful that I am still so moved by the verse. :)

Tis The Season

The holiday season is upon us. With Thanksgiving fast approaching, Christmas soon after and then the beginning of the New Year (can't forget the amazing Halloween that has just passed), most people are in the mood for good things. Good food, friends, fun, etc. This is also a time for good Thoughts.

Starting today until Thanksgiving I am going to blog everyday about things I am thankful for. (Yes, I will blog about life and such things too, but really want to try to remember to be in the spirit of gratefulness as well.) Please feel free to leave comments about things you are thankful for as well.

Today I am thankful for parents. This morning I got to see Clark, Eden and new baby Justin and I was just reminded of how wonderful parents are. To watch Eden sit with her Book open and holding Justin in one arm and then seeing her glance down at her son with smile and pride...Wow! What a feeling that must be. His name was picked because it means "upright" and that is what they want for their son. Thank Father there are so many good parents out there. I think of my friends' parents and just the amazing job that they have done to instill in their children good character. A hard job with awesome responsibility, but I am sure great rewards too.

I must say I am blessed to such great parents. I can say my parents taught me the difference between right and wrong. They taught me to be loving and forgiving. They taught me that life should be about service because that is what they have done themselves. So today I sit a world away thankful for my own parents and parents in general. Hopefully one day I will have that responsibility.

Wish List

Because I have already been asked several times, here is this year's Christmas wish list...

Books (anything written in the English language is fine!)
Socks (for some reason now I like fun prints... maybe because they make my students laugh a lot)
Long sleeve shirts (one day I am going to learn to pack better)
Danish Wedding Cookies (Keebler pink box... been craving!)
Oven Mitts (I am a little hard on mine... have gone through 3 pairs..)

The thing I would really love most though is a letter. I don't think people understand how nice it is to read a handwritten note about life in America. It makes you feel connected. Not that I am not grateful for packages, but it is disappointing to not hear about the sender. So if you will, 90 cents is all it takes to make my Christmas or any day for that matter.

Girls Weekend

So still recovering from a great weekend!

Friday night girls traveled in from all over Hubei province and we started the weekend thinking about what it means to be an ideal woman. After catching up with old friends, finding places for 40+ girls to sleep in our homes, and relieved that Lucy walked up (I was already sorting out in my head how to figure out to call her mom and tell her that we have not talked in over a week...) the Yichang women went to bed ready for a new day.

Saturday morning after waking up early to make/invent soup (much to the dismay of Brad who so graciously slept on the couch of our Yichang host headquarters) and deliver bags of muffins and loaves of homemade breads,all the girls got together to discuss what it meant to be a virtuous woman. Scattered throughout the weekend we handed out fab door prizes (thanks Sandra!), had fun singing (yea Amy!) and got caught up in some general silliness (one word...Barbie!) In the afternoon, we had some free time where girls went out to explore the city. We were able to share in our newly expanded foreign foods section of our supermarket. PTL! In the evening we gathered for a banquet and then finished the night talking about a woman of wisdom. This time we crawled into bed after making it through maybe 10 minutes of Maverick.
Sunday morning waking up even earlier, we once again went through bags of muffins and the best pumpkin bread (Brad the Baker strikes again...) We talked about what it means to be a woman who surpasses them all and how great it will be to be able to lay crowns down at the throne one day. We took supper together and felt renewed. The girls packed up, got on buses and trains, and went home thinking Yichang has perfect weather and that we are pulled together.

Looking back, I don't think the retreat could have gone much better. Everyone chipped in from Yichang to make sure all aspects were covered. Cloud seeding might have even been involved. We made some really sweet new friends and were encouraged by the Growth of some since last year. So tired yes, but absolutely happy.

It's Monday

The weekend has come and gone. I am not sure that things could have gone any better at the retreat. I will post later, but today will be spent in class, resting and cleaning. Thanks be to G*d though for such an uplifting time!

You had your before picture, this would be the after one... ;)

Bring It On

In just a few hours, about 50 girls will be filing into Brad's home. (He is either thankful he will not be there, or sad that he can't join such a beautiful crowd!) We will kick off a great girls weekend of fun, food, forming friendships, and thinking about how to be a "woman who surpasses them all."

Please be Thinking about the weekend for us. As you can see we are pretty excited!